Tuesday, February 25, 2014

More Lessons From the Team

Wow!  It's amazing the lessons you can learn when you just slow down and pay attention.  Today's lesson is on procrastination. 

Our girls are very good basketball players.  They were 13 and 1 going into the final game of the season.  They started the final game on fire, but quickly went cold.  More than cold, they turned into ice.  At the end of the third-quarter they were losing 21 to 5.  My daughter, the head coach, did something amazing at this point.  She looked at the girls and said, "just go out and play basketball."  No pressure, no screaming, just go out and play basketball. And, that is what they did.  With a minute and 13 seconds left, they were winning 27 to 25.  

Now, your comes the lesson on procrastination.  They had given it everything they had, but they ran out of gas just short of victory.  The final was 29 to 27 in favor of the other team.  If only, they had just started playing basketball, a little bit earlier.

And, don't many of us do the same thing?  We wait until the fourth quarter, and we are behind before we start doing the things we know will make us successful.

So, here's my challenge for you today. And, by challenge for you, I mean challenge for me, also.  Today, let's do the things that we know how to do.  Let's  make that extra phone call.  Let's make one more appointment. Let's have the confidence this is going to be our best day ever.

Now, get off the bench and get into the game.  

Make it an amazing day.

Coach Papa

Monday, February 10, 2014

Stop the Bleeding

Stop the Bleeding


Leadership is the ability to influence someone to do something positive.  That’s right.  Positive. 

 
Nay you say.  There are many negative leaders in the world.  They are the drug lords of the world.  They are the gang leaders.  They are the politicians.


I am here to tell you that these people, if they can be called people, are not leaders.  Leadership is a positive attribute.  The people mentioned above are bleeders.  They practice bleedership.  Let me explain the difference.


Leaders are there for you.  Bleeders are not.  A leader will be there for you when times are rough.  A bleeder will not.  A leader will take you by the hand and guide you to better times.  A bleeder will point a finger at you to protect themselves.  The only time a bleeder will take you by the hand is to drag you down with them.


A leader is a person, who by positive example, has made the world a better place to live.   A bleeder, through negative influences, has made the world a dangerous place to live.  A leader gives back to the community that has given them the opportunity to lead.  A bleeder takes from the community and gives only grief in return.


A leader is willing to do whatever they are asked to do.  A leader has ‘Been There, Done That’ and is willing to teach you to do the same.  A bleeder is none of that.  A bleeder convinces you to do things using negative influence.  A bleeder gets you to do the things that are too dangerous for them, but are necessary for profit.


Leaders are driven by need.  Bleeders are driven by greed.  Don’t get me wrong.  Leaders can make a lot of money.  But they earn the money because of their desire to do things the right way for the right reasons.  Bleeders do not let morality get in the way of making a dollar.


At this point, let me bring the politicians, as a group, up from the realm of bleedership and into the domain of leadership.  While, there are many in the political arena who have turned into bleeders, they are the minority.  Most of the people who have chosen to seek public office have done so to serve and protect their constituents.  They have done it for the right reason.  


What happened to them?  


Why do they become bleeders?


Simple.  In order to become a leader, you must be led.  The inverse is also true.  You are going to become a bleeder if you are constantly being bled.


Why are there bleeders?  


Because we allow the bleeding to continue.  If we are going to stop the flow of blood, we must apply pressure to the wounds.  The pressure we must apply is a dressing of leadership.


How are we going to stop the bleeding from so many wounds?


The first thing that we need to do is develop a dressing capable of stopping the bleeding.  This means that we need to begin developing leadership that is strong enough to withstand the pressure of the bleeders in our society.  The world is looking for great leaders.  We need to stop looking for them and start making them.  


We need to take a look at what our children are learning, in and out of school.  We need to provide them with positive leadership and role models if we expect them to resist the pressure of the bleeders.  We need to teach them leadership.  Leaders are made, not born.  

 
It is leadership that will make the difference.  It is doing the right things for the right reasons that will stop the bleeding.  It starts in the home, but it must be evident in all aspects of life.


Be a leader.


Make a leader.


Together, we can stop the bleeding.


Have an Amazing Day,

Coach Papa

Friday, February 7, 2014

College Communications Interview for Rick Ceh

Rick Ceh is my coaching mentor and National 'D' License certifying instructor.  Rick is back in college with a goal of becoming a personal coach as well as a soccer coach/coach instructor.  This survey is for a Communications Class at Elgin Community College.

1.        What kind of job do you have right now?
a.       I am a nationally licensed soccer coach working for Skills First Soccer in McHenry Illinois.  I also am a self employed as an Executive Leadership Coach working with CEO/COO level managers in larger companies and corporations.  I also work with entrepreneurs and small business owner collectively also coaching them through leadership issues.  I am also a published author and speaker on topics ranging from leadership and networking to just plain old story telling.
2.       How long have you been working in your current field?
a.       As an athletic coach, for 37 years
b.      As a leadership coach, for 7 years
c.       As a speaker, author, for 25 years
3.       What do you do during a typical day?  What are your responsibilities?
a.       A typical day for me begins  between 5:30 and 6:30 in the gym, either playing basketball, studying martial arts, or lifting and cardio workouts.  On Tuesdays and Thursdays, I am in networking meetings from 7:30 to 8:30 growing relationships with other business owners.  Between 10:00 am and 2:00 pm, I am meeting with individual clients, coaching them through the 11 leadership principles, the 14 leadership characteristics, or teaching them the Be-Know-Do style of leadership.  At 2:00 pm, I begin changing my mind from business to the athletic field.  I am currently coaching 7thgrade girls basketball, and have two club level soccer teams that I coach either at practices, or at games.  When I get home in the evening, I catch up on my communications such as texts, e-mails and voice-mails that I received during technology down time, which is my coaching time, when the athletes deserve my undivided attention.
4.       How much of your job is related to communications? (Listening, speaking, reading, writing)
a.       110% of my day is spent doing one of the above. 
5.       Please give some examples of the types of communications you engage in at work.  (Write memos, letters, give presentations, group meetings, etc)
a.       I Emcee between 10 and 20 events every year, many of them charitable events where I define myself as a ‘Separator’.  I separate people from the wallets for good causes.
b.      To build my leadership coaching practice, I do about 50 engagements a years teaching leadership at the chamber and networking level, giving the attendees the opportunity to enter a coaching relationship if they so desire.
c.       I communicate to my soccer teams and their parents through e-mail and group meetings.
d.      I do story telling for all ages from 4 to 94.  As a published poet and speaker, we all have a lot of fun at these events.
e.      The list goes on
6.       Have you ever taken business communications classes or had workshops in high school?  In college?  In the work place?  If yes, what kind of classes or workshops did you have?
a.       Yes. Yes.  And, Yes.  In high school I enjoyed speech so much that I was entered in state competition against other schools, from which I earned a superior+ rating.  My degree is at General Studies degree with a triple minor in Business Administration, Management and Psychology.  I am also a certified Military Instructor Trainer have been the Senior Drill Instructor at the Officer Candidate School.  What type of training?  Pretty much the whole spectrum from instructional speaking to motivational/inspirational talks.  Did I mention that I am also an ordained minister with several sermons in my bag of tricks?
7.       Discuss a difficult communications situation you have had to face and how did you deal with the situation?  I was once asked to speak at a meeting about three months before the meeting.  As we approached the meeting, I called the organizer to get more particulars on the meeting.  Time, topic, etc…  I was informed at that time that I was not on the agenda.  We attended the meeting anyway.  We arrived a few minutes late due to weather conditions and were seated as the first speaker was just finishing her presentation.   Following the round of applause for that speaker, the Emcee stepped up the microphone and said, “Our next speaker is Tim Stewart.”  I had not prepared or planned a single note.   I had from my seat to the podium to prepare my talk.  To this day, it may be one of my best presentations ever.  (excluding  the toast at my daughter’s wedding) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HXV_XRlZ3dM
8.       If you could learn/study anything to help you become a better communicator, what would you learn/study? Why?
a.       I study the great speakers to see what works for them.  I watch their mannerisms,  their speech patterns and their timing.  I am personally a big fan of Mr. Zig Ziglar and pattern much of my work after him.  I have had the opportunity to present in the Ziglar offices in Plano, TX three times.  I must be doing okay, because they keep asking me back. 
9.       Name the three most important things you have learned about communication in the workplace.
a.       Listen/read  well before you speak/write.  If you are unclear on what is being said or asked, restate it in your own words to ensure you are on the right track.
b.      When you speak or write, ask for feedback to ensure what you said is what their heard.
c.       Wait 24 hours before responding to emotional outbursts.  Give yourself and the other guy/gal a cooling off period so things are not said in the heat of the moment that are neither kind, respectful nor fruitful.
10.   Do you have an advice for me or anything you would like to add in relation to communication in the workplace?
a.       Steve Martin says, “Some people have a way with words.  Others, not have way.”  I believe that everyone has a way with words, if they will take the time and practice the right things to say and the right way to say them.  In the military the tree elements of war are to move, shoot and communicate.  If any one of these elements is compromised, the war will be lost.  Good communication is the background  for success in any organization.  Poor communication is a ticket to failure.

Leadership lessons from my daily commute

Lessons learned from my daily commute.

As I stated a multitude of times, leadership lessons are everywhere.  Today, as I was making my commute, I began looking around for the lessons.  There is what I learned.

1.   Leaders leave early.
2.   Leaders leave room for another driver to pull in.
3.   Leaders do not tailgate.
4.   Leaders begin slowing down the moment the traffic light turns yellow.
5.   Leaders use their turn signals.
6.   Leaders don't talk on cell phones, or text, while driving.
7.   Leaders look ahead so they can plan ahead.
8.   Leaders check on a stranded motorist make sure they are okay.  At the very least, they
      will make a call to let someone know there was a stranded motorist.
9.   Leaders wave of police officers using all of their fingers.
10. The bottom line is, leaders do the right things for the right reasons all the time.

They say the driving exposes your true character.  Are you a leader when you drive?

Have an amazing day!

Coach Papa

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Out of the Actions of Youth

Out of the Actions of Youth

I have the opportunity to coach several young athletes.  I find that the lessons I am learning from them are exactly the ones I need.

For example, one of the things I always preach is that making a mistake is not nearly as important as how you react to the mistake.  Tonight, I saw that lesson at work.  One of our young athletes, L, who is clearly the best athlete on the team, took an in bounds pass and scored a layup immediately in the opposing team's basket. L's history is one of getting down on herself when she makes a mistake.  Not tonight.  That layup brought the other team within 2 points of us with 1:42 left.  All Miss L did over the next minute and forty-two seconds is to score 6 points, have an assist and 4 steals.  Her layup made the score 21-19 in our favor.  The final score was 33-19.  L definitely let her response to the mistake far over ride the mistake.

Now, this brings up a couple of questions.  Have I made any mistakes lately?  And, how have I reacted to them?

My answers, in order of the questions, are; yes and OMG.

Amazing things not only come out of the mouths of babes.  They show up in their actions as well.

And, the next question is, "Well, Coach Papa.  What are you going to do now?"

I guess I am going to have to face up to some of my mistakes and decide how I am going to react to them.

Is it possible that you need to do a little soul searching as well?

Don't let me stop you.  And, don't wait for me to write down all of my mistakes for the world to see.  I am going to decide my next step on how to react to each of them.  Then, I am going to attach each of my mistakes to a helium balloon and send them away on the next stiff breeze.  After that, I am going to go watch my teams play another game so I can learn another life lesson.

Have a Wonder Filled Day,

Coach Papa




Tuesday, February 4, 2014

The Simplicity of True Leadership

This blog is going to be offered in conjunction with the Simplicity of True Leadership Program as taught by Tim Stewart – Executive Leadership Coach.
It will be a series of stories and lessons that support the teaching and coaching done throughout the program.  It will also be available the public for those who wish to learn a little bit about leadership.
I look forward to being part of your life.
Sincerely,
Tim Stewart